Why is it difficult not to care about what others think of you? Do we control the way other people see and think about us?

Question: Why is it difficult not to care about what others think of you? Do we control the way other people see and think about us?

It is difficult not to care about what others think because if a person perceives you the wrong way then they will tell another person which then becomes your reputation. For example, if you are a new kid at University High school and a kid calls you weird, then the group that person hangs around will consider you weird. They will consider you weird because they have accepted what another person (their friend) has said instead of getting to know you personally. That kid gets a bad reputation because one kid perceived them the wrong way. Also, it is difficult not to care what others think because everyone wants to be accepted. Everyone wants to be understood as an individual and when perceived the wrong by another individual that person is not given the chance to express him or herself.

To a certain degree we control the way people see and think of us but only by our actions. We control how they see us by actions, but we cannot control how they see us within social class. For example, in India people are born into a poor, average, and rich class depending on what class there parents were in. A kid that is poor in India can grow up to be rich but is still looked upon as poor. People can control the way others perceive them by their mannerisms. If they are a polite and respectful person others see them as polite and respectful. We do not have control over how people see us physically, and externally. People will always judge a person on the way they dress, and they way they speak, etc.